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Read your way to a blended family that feels whole.

Essays, tips, and resources from Dino Flora — written for the people raising kids the long way around.

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Our Philosophy
Philosophy · 4 min read

Why You Should Define Your Step Relationship

By taking these steps, the term "STAD" can be used to maximize its value for a stepdad and help to promote a positive, supportive, and inclusive family dynamic.

Dino Flora
Founder · Feb 5, 2023
Why You Should Define Your Step Relationship
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Wedding Vows not just for the bride and groom anymore?
RitualsMar 9, 2023

Wedding Vows not just for the bride and groom anymore?

7 min · Read →
Simple Step Parent Tips
AdviceFeb 5, 2023

Simple Step Parent Tips

3 min · Read →
A Happy and Successful Life Mantra - cliff notes from Dad
LettersMay 1, 2019

A Happy and Successful Life Mantra - cliff notes from Dad

9 min · Read →
Stom™ Educational Presentation
ResourcesFeb 7, 2018

Stom™ Educational Presentation

5 min · Read →
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Identity18 min

Why we made up a word for the people who raise us.

The full case for "stad" — every objection answered, every linguistic argument heard out, with research, family stories, and a guide for the first conversation.

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Identity9 min

Why ‘step-’ was always a wall, not a bridge

Every other family relationship gets one syllable. Mom. Dad. Son. Then we hyphenate the people who chose us, and wonder why they feel one step out.

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Rituals6 min

The Tuesday handoff: turning custody days into ceremonies

The most loaded twelve minutes of a blended-family week. Here's how to turn them from a transaction into something that holds.

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Letters12 min

On being chosen: a stom’s first 100 days, in 12 letters

Twelve short letters from new stoms about week one, week six, the first parent-teacher night, and the first time she said 'mom' on accident.

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Communication5 min

Three sentences to say to a bio parent before September

School-year season is when blended-family communication breaks. Three short sentences to send before the first bell rings.

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Identity4 min

What ‘bonus kid’ actually feels like, from a kid

We asked twenty bonus kids what the word means to them. The answers are not what most adults would write.

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Therapy9 min

The blended-family therapist's intake form, annotated

What the family-therapy intake form is really asking, line by line — so you walk in already knowing what matters most.

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Co-parenting7 min

Holiday calendars are not love letters — but they can be

The custody calendar gets re-read every December. A small change in how you write it can change how a kid reads the year.